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Paper or Plastic?

The thing about taking your own shopping bags to the store is that it isn’t mainstream enough yet that people don’t think it weird.  The problem is two fold:

1) If you go to the normal checkout you have to explain your needs to the bagger.  The bagger is usually in their work mode and won’t stop for anything–so your special request catches them off guard.  They are quite perplexed at the thought of putting nearly everything in one bag.  Of course, I have separate bags for the produce and meat and possible cleaning products, be even those bags are put into my giant IKEA bag, making it possible to get from my car to my apartment in only one trip.  “Are you sure?  Are you sure you can carry this?”

2) If you go to the self-checkout the machine gets really upset.  You can’t put your own bags in the bagging area because it throws everything off and won’t let you continue.  If you put your bags in the cart and “skip” the bagging area, half-way through your order the employee must come over and oversee your actions before you can continue.  The last option, and possibly the best, is to just throw everything on the scales in the bagging area and then quickly bag it into your own bags after you’ve finished the transaction.  This also means you’re holding up the line for the aggravated customers behind you.

Really.  You can’t win.  But I’m not giving up.



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I’m so glad I didn’t inconvenience you

Somewhere along the way Americans have made the phrase, “no problem” a normal response to an expression of gratitude. For the most part, it is considered a proper reply and people fail to realize what they are actually saying. Or, perhaps it is just me, who finds the rather jarring and has a tiny hope of starting a revolution to raise awareness of the phrase’s improper use.

Dear Everyone,

When a person expresses thanks (and one can only hope that it is done so with deep sincerity) the proper response is “You are welcome.” The use of “no problem” in substitution of this response indicates that there IS or could have been a problem and, with the use of “no problem” are saying there is not an issue–when the truth is that your actions were of great help. This can be seen as offensive to a person expressing gratitude because they are attempting to give thanks and show appreciation for your actions, to which the response of “no problem” indicates that what you have done was not a big deal–was a possible problem that was avoided–when perhaps your actions were a big deal, were greatly appreciated, for whoever is thanking you. The gratitude then, seems to go unheard and is felt unwelcome. The proper response should indicate your humility in aiding as well as using positive, rather than negative, language: “Certainly,” “You’re welcome,” “My pleasure.”

In addition, a person in the service industry has a job that requires helping others.  “No problem” indicates that you might have better things to do, but isn’t serving others you job?  I should certainly hope it is not a problem!

Thank you,

This Girl.


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grabbing at the air

I went to my hometown library this past week and couldn’t believe how small the space was. It is interesting to visit such places, as I now look at them with a different eye and wonder what type of budget they’re under. The place isn’t anything special, but it is certainly active, which is key.

I was infinitely disturbed to find the book You Can’t Have Him, He’s Mine: A Woman’s Guide to Affair-Proofing Her Relationship on the “new books” shelf. Seriously? Seriously. Come on people. Is this what our lives have come to? Even better, when you look it up on Amazon.com it suggests you buy it in conjunction with Gary Chapman’s The Five Love Languages, a book a actually think has value. It is concerned more about love than grabbing at something and keeping the other woman away.

I am so biased. Please don’t put me in charge of collection development.

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Filling in the gaps.

I was at a conference over the weekend and between sessions stopped at the University library of the DePaul campus to ask the reference librarian to look up mass times for that day.  In short, the experience was horrendous as far as my classes have taught me and I was busy analyzing ever detail in my head when I was caught off-guard in one of those, “hey-we-never-really-talked-in-college-but-I guess-we-should-make-small-talk-now-cause-it-would-be-rude-to-ignore-each-other” moments.

“How is library school?”
“Good.”  I really don’t like this question.  It never leads anywhere.  Do you REALLY want to know or are we just having a conversation?
Awkward pause.  Everyone is looking at me.
“Well, I can tell you that I just asked the reference librarian  here a question and she was completely incompetent.  I can say that with authority because I  KNOW.”

Awkward pause.  Everyone is looking at me.  I’ve said to much.  I immediately regret my plan to try to tell you something about library school.  And.  I’m a bitch.

I am. so. awkward.


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Continuing on

Here’s something they didn’t tell you:

Graduate school is hard.

The work is hard, yes. The schedule is different, of course. You actually get to study what you want to study now, right? I suppose. But it is more than that. Graduate school is hard because you are caught in this interem between being a college student and being out in the working world–more specifically, having a life. We’re old enough to be married now. We’re old enough to have a steady income. We’re old enough to go out for a TGIF drink or a nightcap and not get carded. But we can’t. And if we do, it is a huge financial burden because we do not have money and/or we should be studying. Everything has to be put on hold. Just let me finish this paper– Just let me make it through this week– I know I can have more fun if I only can get to Christmas break– Hold up. Just let me finish my degree– Or worse (or perhaps better), the “oh shit. Is this really what I want to do at all?” realization.

It is different than undergrad because everyone was in the same situation before. We all knew we’d be studying on Sunday night. And the bars were right down the street anyhow. And none of us were married and no one could afford a decent night out. Plus, if you needed a hug you had someone with open arms only a few blocks away.

Friends with jobs are wondering why we can’t hang out more–why it is such an inconvenience for us to have dinner together, to see each other on the weekends. The reason, my friends, is because I work and/or go to school all day and THEN am expected to study when I get home. I don’t watch TV. I haven’t seen a movie in weeks. My weekends are booked until Christmas. And by booked, I mean I have something going on one day, and the other day I intend to run errands, maybe clean the bathtub, and then follow it up with numerous hours of coffee and library journals. I long to have a night free in which the burden of papers and projects isn’t looming its guilt above my head. I deeply desire to leave my work at work and have my evenings to do crazy things like read a magazine that isn’t involving libraries. Or write. Or have kids.

I know I’m not alone. And for those of you that have been hurting a lot lately, I hear you. And your pain is great. You are in my prayers.


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You’re depressed? Hey, me too!

I found this on the virtual bulletin board at my school:

Depression Screening Day- Wednesday October 10, from 10:00 a.m. to 2;00 p.m in

More than 54 million Americans are affected by mental health disorders. On college campuses one in five students are likely to experience depression during their time in college. At Depression Screening Day, you are invited to fill out a brief questionnaire assessing the likelihood that you may be suffering from depression, bipolar disorder, generalized anxiety disorder or post-traumatic stress disorder. You will also have the opportunity to receive pamphlets and brochures and follow-up privately with a counselor. The program is free for all those who attend and it is completely confidential.

Please join us on Wednesday, October 10 from 10:00 a.m. to 2;00 p.m in the Lounge. Hope to see you there!

My thoughts: 
1.  A person is depressed but doesn’t realize it is very unlikely to make the effort to find out. 
2.  A person who is depressed doesn’t want to go to an info session where they are likely to see their peers, and being that the school is so small, they will also know the other attendees.  It is like wearing a sign that says, “Hey, I’m depressed!  Or at least I might be!”
3.  What if you go thinking you’re depressed, but fail the exam?  Isn’t that depressing?

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